5 Steps To Be Kind To Yourself

5 Steps To Be Kind To Yourself

There are times when we carefully watch what we say to others.   When we know a friend is going through a time of feeling bad.  We sit there and take our sweet time trying to get the right words together to uplift a friend.

We give ourselves maybe a minute if that much and speak negative words to ourselves when we are feeling bad. We find ourselves caring deeply for their feelings but what about the times that we deny ourselves the same treatment.

Read this for more ways : 18 Ways to Be Kind To Yourself 

You may wonder what times?  You know, the times when you find yourself saying negative words to yourself:

about what you did not finish yet

or maybe the time when you felt that you were not good enough

or even the time when you thought you could have done a task in a better way.

This list can go on and on.  It would be beneficial to give yourself the same treatment that you would give a friend in these type of situations.

Be careful of how you are talking to yourself because you are listening-Lisa M. Hayes

Have you notice how we are some of the worst critics when it comes to ourselves?

I mean we can really beat ourselves up with negative words.

I mean, there have been times in life that if there was a boxing match going on between me and myself (the worst critic with negative words), myself will beat me with a knock out in the 1st round.  Thank God for growth.


Remember the post I wrote about 6 Ways To Say No To Self Negative Talk.  Negative words will keep you stuck.  They do not help the situation.

I also wrote an updated blog on how positive self talk has changed my life. If you have not read it, read it here

They take us further into the world of negativity and breaks us down.  They break us down into a fragile state.  We began doubting other abilities that we may have.  It is difficult to get anything done positive in a fragile state.

One of the best steps you can do for yourself is Be Kind To Yourself.  This is not the only step in life that will yield positivity.  It is right up there in the list of Big Ones.

Is it always easy to be kind to yourself?  Not at first if you are your worst critic, but as you participate in daily activities that are geared toward loving on yourself, it will become easy to develop kindness toward yourself.

With kindness, you speak positive words into your mind.  You build yourself up instead of tearing yourself down.  You show compassionate to yourself.

Related reading: How I Create a Self Care Kit

When you be kind to yourself, you open the door to produce greatness because you began to think good about yourself.

This leads to believing in yourself and achieving goals in life.  This helps you allow peace into your life.

I encourage you to take some time and choose your words carefully because when you talk to yourself, you are listening-Lisa M. Hayes

I have created a list of  5 Simple Ways That Are Geared Toward Me Loving On Myself Which Lead To Me Being Kind To Myself that have been helpful to me 

Forgive yourself– No one is perfect.

Magnify your strengths– We all have strengths and positive characteristics.  Thinking about what I am good at is always empowering.

Participate in self-care techniques-This helps reduce the impact of daily stressors and allow peace in my life.  Pampering also makes me feel good about myself.

Make some positive affirmations that you can review daily-Speak positive words into my mind help remove negative words from my though process.

Make a list of ways to encourage yourself-By creating this list, I have a built-in cheerleader. Read post here on Why You Need To Be Your Own Best Cheerleader

When I participate in these steps and love on myself, I am equipping my mind with positivity which makes it easy for me to be kind to myself.

It is easy for me to say kind words to myself like I would a friend because the kindness is already there for me to tap into.

If you would like to read further about self-care techniques, I shared some techniques in my post about 5 Tips To Reduce Stress.

About a couple of weeks ago, I wrote a post on 5 Simple Ways To Encourage Yourself that you may find helpful.

I know you may have a busy schedule but I hope this post give you a moment to think about the importance of being kind to yourself.

May sure you read the follow up post 18 Ways To Be Kind To Yourself 

Update:  I have created a free printable just for you.

Download here

How do you be kind to yourself?  If  you have some tips on how to be kind to yourself,  I would love for you to share them.

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77 thoughts on “5 Steps To Be Kind To Yourself

  1. Have you seen the (French) Dove Commerical? It’s on YouTube. They ask people to write down in journals what they say to themselves in the mirror or about themselves. They had 2 actresses go to a cafe and one would say these things to the other actress. It was so mean and disrespectful that some customers would tell off the 1st actress. Even the actresses said they had a hard time saying such mean things.

    Very nice post to reminds us to be kind to ourselves.

  2. This is great, JcCee and useful. I always forget about the self-care techniques because I always say “I’m too busy”, which I shouldn’t!

  3. What a great post. This is so important, yet I forget to be kind to myself on most days. Thank you for the much needed reminder and great tips.

    1. You’re very welcome! I love reminders because it can be so easy to forget to be kind to ourselves. Thanks so much for stopping by! 🙂

  4. Love this! Sometimes we forget how to slow down and just take care of ourselves. We all need to do it. Thanks for sharing!

  5. You are very wise to have unraveled the negative effects of unhelpful thoughts. Keep up the good work and keep all these great comments in your affirmations file so you can kick the lies to the curb when they come!

  6. I love how you focused on the self. Sometimes, we are very hard on ourselves and are often our biggest critics. Thank you for this.

  7. Thanks for these tips JcCee! My life is about to get insanely crazy at work…this list will come in super handy when I’m ready to jump off a bridge 🙂 Seriously though, I think reminding myself of these 5 tips, especially #2, will help me through the season

  8. Forgiving yourself is very important. I sometimes find I beat myself up over such small things. Thanks for sharing.

    1. I am glad that you like it and I am honored that he shared it with y’all! Thanks so much for stopping by. I am going to check out your meet and greet 🙂

  9. I’m a list girl so I love the suggestion of making a list of encouragement for yourself. I might have to try that! Thanks for sharing!

  10. This is a great post JC! So true we can be our own worst critic. As I’ve gotten older I’ve learned to not be so hard on myself. These are wonderful tips you have shared. Thanks!

  11. This is a great reminder. It’s easy to tell others to go easy on themselves, but it can be difficult taking our own advice. I really like the “pamper yourself” tip! I will try to do that more. Thanks

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